Author – Ishita Gupta

Spoiled-Kids

My neighbour, Neetu Shah, has two children – Tanvi and Rachit. Rachit, who is now about 16 years old, has been a patient of asthma since birth and hence had to keep a check on his diet and physical health constantly; Tanvi is a college goer. Neetu believes in strict parenting and has been asserting various boundaries on both her children since their childhood.

On interviewing Neetu about her children, she laughed, as every mother would and explained how her kids are always bugging her about everything. She also told that they are the best thing that ever happened to her. However, after spending time with her children and observing their traits, I realised that Rachit had been extremely spoiled. I ask his elder sister Tanvi how Rachit is as a brother. Like every sister would complain, she sulked about how her brother would always have things his way and always bullies her. On asking her what could be the reason behind such aggression, I received a rather valid reply. Tanvi explained how her brother had always been pampered and given everything he’d demanded for. I silently observed Rachit playing on his laptop despite his mother scolding him to go and study. I asked Rachit, “Don’t you get tired of playing on the laptop all day?”  “No, there are so many games. Plus, I have to play because all my classmates are playing this game”, he reverted back. Further, I noticed Tanvi messaging someone continuously on her cell phone. When I inquired her about the time she spends on her cell phone, she answered “Rather often. I have nothing else to do at home. And you may be wondering why I am consistently on it; well I only got my phone in 2nd year of college. So it’s not like I’ve always been like this. I didn’t have all the privileges my brother has at his age.” Their mother, Neetu, overheard Tanvi’s reply and added that Rachit feels left out on seeing his sister getting such privileges, and doesn’t understand that she only got this liberty after she cleared her school exams and got into a proper college. She also told me that Rachit is always so angry, even on the smallest things. “We try and overlook his anger, since he has asthma and we worry that if we bother or scold him too much, it may affect his health”, Neetu finished. I noticed the expression of slight distress on Neetu’s face and realized how worried she was about Rachit, his studies and health.

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Rachit and his Mom

On interviewing this neighbour of mine, I came to realise that the child is spoilt not solely due to his parents’ pampering or irresponsibility, but due to all the people who he comes across in his life. Friends and siblings induce the child to be attracted to the leisures, which the parents have to bow down and get for the child in order to control his/her tantrums. However, the siblings and friends cannot be controlled, given they are also young. So it is up to the parents to put a foot down and rectify the child’s behaviour.

Below mentioned are a few ways in which a child gets spoiled by the parents –

  • Immensely Pampered
  • Positive Behaviour of child is Overlooked
  • No Limitation on the Actions of the Child
  • No Rules and Regulations exerted
  • Too many Rules Eexerted
  • Giving in during child’s Tantrums

Child discipline experts assure that all this can be rectified. Experts suggest the following methods to reform the spoiled kids:

  • Establish Restrictions – The child should have clear regulations which they must follow.
  • Consequences for Breaking Rules– Cut off the privileges or take a favourite item of the child.
  • Reward for Good Behavior– The child gets rewarded for good behaviour. Rewards may include a surprise lunch at the child’s favourite place or some other treat.
  • Teach the child to accept “no” as an answer– If the child’s pleadings have been denied, don’t let tantrums change the answer.
  • Practice Ideal Behaviour– The child will only learn the kind of behaviour around them. Unruly behaviour will allow them to be unruly. Respect and kindness amongst parents, will induce the same qualities in the child.

The years of adolescence are the most critical years for both the child and parents. The child is plain confused as to what is going on around them and the parents don’t know how to help their child through this phase. It is during these years, that the child becomes mature or get spoiled.  It’s all a matter of how you handle them and direct them into the right path.

Image – Pixabay

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  • Akash

    Really well written!
    Good job!

    • Ishita

      Thanks Akash, glad you liked it

  • Rakesh

    Interesting Article Ishita 🙂

    • Ishita

      Thanks dad!

  • Vardan Sedha

    Nicely written truth!!
    Deserves attention!..well done ishita;)

    • Ishita

      Thank you Vardan 🙂

  • abhishek kumar

    Insightful and well researched
    Nice job 😛

    • Ishita

      Thank you!
      Thanks for the feedback (:

  • Koustav Garai

    Nicely researched and beautifully written. Good job

    • Ishita

      Thanks Koustav (: